Your girlfriend is telling you she wants a open relationship. What do you do?

Ok I’ve decided to construct an actual response.

You should break up with her because if you’re resorting to asking MassimoL then it’s clear it isn’t for you. From experience, you can’t force a monogamous person into a polyamory in the same way you can’t force a straight person to be gay, its just not for you. You’re gonna resent her for putting you in the situation and shes going to resent you for not understanding. You should end it while you still care about each other.

Furthermore, open relationships need to be entered into with enthusiasm on both parts because, as a polyam person, people will be rude as fuck. People will hate, people will make snide remarks and give their input on your relationship. It is a struggle, not one you should undergo unless you’re 100 percent certain in your openness. Secondly, you need to be realistic, polyamorous relationship require more communication and trust than any monogamous relationship – do your girlfriend and you realistically have that?

do you want it too?

I’d say I disagree. If she cheats on me or insists on it, I’d break up.

I had an open relationship with a girl and it devolved into a huge thing. I didn’t think she’d fuck my brother.

I guess it’s my fault for getting mad since we didn’t say it was off limits or anything but I kinda thought it was a given.

It depends on the dynamic of our relationship.

I wouldn’t necessarily have anything against trying an open relationship if it was clear from the beginning that she was not too serious about monogamy and was sexually open in that way.

But if she has spent the entirety of our relationship showing monogamous tendencies, pushing for commitment, or acting jealous over me and then suddenly one day decides she wants to embrace her inner hippie and open things up? Nah that is sketchy af.