I’m 18, he‘s 31, I was supposed to meet him tomorrow. (My country has finished quarantine.) I told him I didn’t feel comfortable sleeping with him, or even hooking up in any way, he pressed me on it further, and I admitted I was on my period and was uncomfortable. He told me that he didn’t want to be around anybody who put up any barriers.. He didn’t want me to feel comfortable setting boundaries. Blocked his ass real fast.
I dated/had sex with a 28 year old when I was 13 and thought it was perfectly normal. He always complimented me, bought me stuff, and drove me places when I needed a ride. Looking back now I can’t believe I didn’t realize how fucked up that was.
To this day he can’t find someone to date that’s his age (I’m 24 now) from what I heard from rumors.
It honestly never clicked for me until I was MUCH older myself. I just thought I was super mature and that’s why it wasn’t weird that I was 14 with a 19 year old boyfriend. It was a super toxic relationship, he cheated on me, stole from me, lied to me and lied about me so much. He pretty much only came around when he wanted sex and would tell me whatever he thought I needed to hear to keep stringing me along. In my naïveté, I thought this was just how “grownup” relationships were. So I stayed, until I finally got fed up at 18 years old! Isn’t it funny that when I was finally old enough to date him, I no longer wanted to???
I thought I was cooler than the other girls in my grade because my boyfriend was a man. Looking back, I’m sure I was an easy lay as I didn’t require much from him in return like people his own age might’ve. And as I got older, I wondered if he ever felt odd having sex with someone who was so clearly a child. I also wondered how none of his friends (they all knew my real age) thought it was weird or called him out on it. I think that’s the “system” they speak of when they say this kind of behavior takes a village of people who were not willing to protect the child. The irony of it all is that Karma has blessed him with three daughters and I’m sure he’s had the scary thought, more than once, that another “him” will come along and treat his girls the way he treated me!
I know a 14 year old girl who fucked her pot dealer for weed. I know a 13 year old who was dating a 45 year old (oh boy did that guy get the SHIT kicked out of him over it), It never really was an issue here because everyone grew up with that mentality that goofs deserve nothing more than a bullet in between the eyes and when all the teenage girls hear that coming from boys…. it tends to make them think.
Does it count if it’s online? If so when I was 8-9 I dated an 18 year old, and when I was 10 I dated a 17 year old.
Luckily we never sent any pictures to each other but it unfortunately led to me lying about my whole life online for 7 years. I stopped last August and owned up to all my online friends