“Conventionally unattractive” people are immediately attractive when they have a good heart (and vice versa). If they’re constantly dwelling in self pity and self hatred, it’s way less attractive than their actual looks. It’s hard to be around those types of vibes. By accepting that you’re “ugly” by society’s standards and that there’s nothing you can do about it you become happier. I like to surround myself with people who love themselves first, no matter what they look like. This is easier said than done, but it makes a massive difference. People who are jealous/revengeful are unattractive, period. I don’t care what society thinks about your looks. Being obsessive over your friends/SO isn’t cute or quirky. Nor is trying to “get back” at the people who you are jealous of or who have hurt you.
Attractiveness, in my eyes, is just a measurement of character. That doesn’t mean I’ll be romantically pulled to everyone attractive, but that in itself is not an indicator of attractiveness, just of personal preference.
Surgery.
Money, power and/or reputation.
A connection. Authenticity goes a long way, and someone that you connect with that is just being themselves… that’s very attractive.
Sarcasm. Wit. Just bite me with your words.