Questa volta abbiamo cercato una domanda rivolta alle donne.
This is for the average guy you meet less of something personally but feel free to share that anyways!
Ed ecco le risposte del genere femminile:
If he asks you if you wanna do something (go get coffee, hang out at a bookstore, go on a date, etc etc) and you give a “no” and he just says “ok, cool. maybe next time!” And doesn’t try and whine or beg you to change you mind.
In other words, he can feel disappointment and still respect your no.
How he treats other women, from the waitress to the homeless woman on the street to the CEO. Is he respectful to them? Does he speak respectfully about them? Or is he cracking sex jokes and scrutinizing their appearances?
Respecting boundaries
A lot of my really good male friends are really respectful and attentive when things get sketchy. I was at a bar with some friends when this guy randomly made an extremely inappropriate pass on one of our friends. The guys immediately intervened, confronted the guy, removed the girl from the situation, and began to ask if she was okay.
Essentially— they understand how women operate and act upon girl code, even when they’re with the boys.
Many female friends is usually a good sign
He has female and male friends that he treats with equal respect and attentiveness. Bonus points if they’re friends he’s had for years.
Recognizing and respecting boundaries is a good start, but that’s kind of the bare minimum.
Asking what he can do to make me feel safe around him. Ask about my boundaries and how you can respect them. There’s a good chance that any woman you know has at least one story where a man harmed her in some way, and more stories abt men who she didn’t feel safe around. Just ask what they need.
There is just a difference when you realize the dudes who are waiting for you to be drunk enough to fuck th and the ones who wouldn’t fuck you when you’re drunk like that lol
Respecting boundaries, making me feel included without putting me in the spotlight, or standing up for me before I can myself.
Example: You’re at a party or some other social setting, and a guy is giving you an uncomfortable amount of attention that you don’t want and makes you uncomfortable. He asks you out enough times for you to reject him and make him mad. So he starts hurling insults at you. Another guy sees this, and comes to defend you, with absolutely zero expectations of getting something out of it(number, a date, a hookup, etc.) And just goes about his business after you thank him.
In my experience, you can call yourself a nice guy until you’re blue in the face. What really cements it is if you SHOW ME. Don’t give me a story about how you helped an old lady unload her groceries, show me right now that you are a nice guy.