Trying to turn me against my family and friends to isolate me. “They don’t really care about you as much as I do”, or “___ is a liar, I don’t think you should hang out with them as much anymore”. Turns out my friends were right all along, as soon as I felt alone and had disregarded what my friends warned me about, my ex started to become very abusive and I didn’t even realize it.
Anytime you don’t agree with them on any subject they ignore you and make it feel like it is your fault so you are always the one apologizing for everything. I did this so much and never should have. Everyone is allowed an opinion in any relationship and you don’t have to agree on everything but should be able to talk things through like mature adults.
I disagreed with her on something and she backhanded me in the arm really hard. I grabbed her hand and pulled her to a seated position in the room and told her that wasn’t okay. I thought I had nipped it in the bud, but then after we got married we had a big fight because I had kissed another girl while we were separated and she punched me in the face. I was so shocked I didn’t know how to handle it.
Naturally, I did the dumb thing and went through the abuse for like 2 years after that because I blamed myself. Don’t be like me. Leave.
Also, found out after the divorce that she had cheated on me while we lived in the same city. So, that was shitty.
If they repeatedly interrupt you, even after you ask them to stop.
If they offer to give you unsolicited advice AND refuse your advice.
She didn’t want to work. As soon as I gave her the out to quit a particular job it was over. It became a struggle for 10 years to get her to do anything, and a web of financial abuse and career abuse followed.