Oh boy there’s enough to write a whole book about that topic. Just a few examples:
Quit stuffing paper napkins and other trash into glasses.
Leave if your kid is obviously tired and bored as shit when they’re running around or screaming their lungs out at 12pm.
Understand that you’re not the only customer in the restaurant so at least be a bit patient.
Don’t look at servers as if you’re about to devour them alive when they come out of the kitchen or glare at them when other customers get served first.
Don’t snap or whistle at servers like they’re some fucking dog.
Don’t be a prick by being unnecessarily pissed off about your food not being perfect as the servers don’t also cook your food.
Don’t give your number written on a napkin so that they can hand it to a coworker. (They usually get hung up in the kitchen so that everyone can laugh at them)
At least acknowledge the server when they greet you instead of acting like a pompous dick.
And finally if there was nothing that bothered you in your dining experience tip the waiter. It’s not owed but it honestly helps knowing that their efforts were appreciated. The list goes on but I think those are enough examples.
Most places have a tip-out… a percentage of the servers sales go towards the kitchen/bar/hosts. Therefore if you tip 10%, and tip out is 5%, the server only keeps the remaining 5% of that tip.
If you tip 15%, then server keeps 10%.
My service personality is not me. Parts of me bleeds through and I am very personable. You dictate how much we engage, but please dont caricaturize me. I really dont like being told to perform and it is super stressful. If you want an order taker to grab your food and drinks, awesome; if you want somebody to be your therapist, I will listen. But dont cross a line and dont assume too much about me.
If your kids can’t shut up, maybe leave or deal with it, letting them scream is bad because nobody wants to deal with that. Fuck you, fuck them kids, piss off.
Please stop saying “it was terrible!” after eating everything on your plate