A year ago I found out my wife was talking to another man and sending sexual photos of herself to him. I confronted her about it and she told me she wanted to pursue a relationship with this other guy and didn’t want to be with me anymore. We have two kids,8 and 5. After a couple of months she moved in with a completely different guy than she left me for and they immediately became pregnant. She has now told me that she is still in love with me and wants to be with me again and have our family back together. I have really missed her and my kids and how we were as a family. I would love to have my family back and I think it would be beneficial for our kids. But im worried about accepting this new baby that’s not mine and her baby daddy a part of our lives forever. Would it be a good idea to get back with her?
How is accepting her back into your life beneficial to you or the kids, especially now she’s knocked up by some other rando? A little bit of self respect and dignity go a long way.
This sort of happened to me. She would step outside of the marriage and then want to get back together. Eventually she said we were over but eventually wanted one last chance after I was starting to get a divorce going. During that time she again started to step out of the marriage and we ended things. I led the way with a divorce and made sure it was all taken care of. Later, after that, she wanted to get back together.
Here’s the thing, I originally tried to keep things going for my kids but I realised things would never change. I’d forever be waiting for the next time she met someone or whatever.
I was a safe place (kind, good husband, good father, and financially stable) which made me a great default in between her flings. The people she met would turn out to be garbage. After her fun, she wanted to have me as a back up.
Sounds like your wife is doing the same thing. She went off to have fun but needs your stability again. You need to really look deep inside yourself and decide if you can handle this happening again. It might not but it wouldn’t be a surprise if it did.
Good luck.
This is surely rage bait?
On the off chance, no. She wrecked your family, got pregnant by some charming character and she looked to the first easy port of call.
She loves you like a hungry man loves a sandwich. You arent there to be treasured, merely devoured for the sustenance needed.
Your wife left you for her new boy toy, found out the grass wasn’t greener on the other side, and now wants to come crawling back to the good man she betrayed and broke down…
Don’t take her back. Be a good co-parent to your two kids, and don’t take out any frustration on her new child. But find yourself a woman who will value your loyalty and dedication.
Bro, really? You are now plan C and soon to be plan D once a new guy comes. Run, Run and Run.
Soon she will start cheating while you are babysitting the affair child.
My guy she up and ditched you for another man, got knocked up and is running back. Why would you take that back? Who’s to say she won’t just fall in love with another person and try to repeat this shit.