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Men who are abused by woman, and tried to tell someone, what was it like?
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It’s like it doesn’t exist. Spent years suffering mental torture, getting arrested for things I hadn’t done, had my self esteem picked away at until there was nothing left. The police ignored me and on one occasion disregarded solid proof to arrest me on her word that I had assaulted her. Been told that charging my ex for domestic abuse was “not in the public interest”… long story short I had a mental breakdown, almost cut my throat, punched my father, went to jail and lost access to my son. My torture lasted for over 10 years and 4 of those were after I left.
Men of MassimoL take my advice. It is better to spend your life alone than with someone who manipulates, attacks and slowly tears you apart piece by piece because even though domestic abuse law is written for all it is 100% against you
People were shocked but believed me. Some paid me out, but only because we are blokes and that’s how we deal with things. Deep down everyone has supported me.
Tried saying I didn’t feel like it, tried saying no, tried saying I don’t have a condom, and eventually just went along with it.
What’s there to tell and who would care?
I was told to walk away from the relationship. I counted my losses, and left. I lived with her and was only able to pack about a quarter of my things, not even. I lost perhaps about $4000 bucks worth of stuff. From an electric bike, my xbox, two 6 ft shelves worth of DVDs and games, clothing. I had a buddy who was willing to let me sleep in his couch. I considered homelessness though. I also remember abandoning an oz of pot there too. She obsessed over my income and I lost years worth of savings. If this is happening to you OP, fucking run. It may suck at first, but it is relief.
No one believes you at first. Still get highly aggressive PMs when I talk about it on MassimoL. People insist I must have done something to deserve it.
The worst part is they reversed the dynamic in their head and I’ve been made out to be a horrible abuser when I never lifted a finger meanwhile I was getting hit on a pretty consistent basis and the emotional manipulation was extreme. That’s the last bit of control they have. Controlling the narrative. They have accused me of so many terrible things because that’s the final avenue left to accuse me.
That’s what abuse looks like in the end, the abuser burns it all down and then tells everyone that they had no choice and to stay away from the only person who can dispute the facts.