My Mom’s family has a history of heart disease and because of that she’s always been overly cautious about weight etc. I have a build different to her and my sister who are both super skinny without having to put much effort into it. I grew up being fat shamed to the point that even a comment from her sets me off now and I thought I was fat and ugly for the longest time (I wasn’t, gained a little now though can’t lie). She thinks her constant comments are to get me to care about my health but it made me very insecure in my mid to late teens.
I live in an African home, ever since my mums friends child came here, she’s definitely got him as a target. He is really stupid and so frustrating at most times. But most days I can hear him crying from the sitting room or kitchen.
Edit: I am 12
Criticizing things I like that they don’t understand because they don’t understand them.
I’m in my 30s, but I’ll answer anyways. I think my parents think that since I’m self sufficient (I moved out when I was 18, got married in my mid 20s then moved 1000 miles away), that I don’t want to hear from them. I’m always the one to text first, we go years without actually talking on the phone. I have no idea why they don’t want to talk to me. I had to reactivate my Facebook to get any “family updates”. It really hurts that they don’t even think to text me when something happens in the family, even if I texted them earlier that week about something else (I text them dumb stuff about the weather — I live in a much different climate now compared to them– or I’ll share an interesting article or whatever. I text at least a few times a month, only to get a “oh cool” response). Anyway, I feel like they think I like it this way and don’t want a relationship with them. I mean, we’re not close and probably never will be, and it’s true, I don’t “need” them and have gotten by just fine without any of their help, but it’s still super hurtful to have your shit together and feel like a good person yet your parents have zero interest in being in your life. I have a kid too and they show no interest in being grandparents to him (yet they’re super close with my siblings kid)
Not leaving me alone when I ask.