One of the natural advantages of being attracted to same sex xD
I actually love following pretty women on Instagram and such because I feel like I have something to learn from them! If I think she’s pretty, or if I like her makeup or her clothes, I can learn her style tricks and implement them into my own routine. It’s fun to learn from others!
it’s like a switch flipped for me one day and i realized that someone else being pretty doesn’t somehow take any of my beauty away or make any kind of statement about it. she isn’t ”stealing” my beauty, nor making me uglier, nor ”stealing” attention that i wouldn’t have received anyway (many men could learn this last one).
the world would be a lot better if people realized how seldom zero-sum thinking actually works out the way it’s supposed to.
Admiring or even complimenting someone else’s beauty doesn’t take away anything from me. I am content with my looks and don’t have a jealous type of personality.
One day I realized what I was really feeling was a crush, not competition. Then from there, aesthetic appreciation isn’t a competition either. I started realizing I had internalized a lot of harmful bullshit ideas about other women and it wasn’t doing me any favors. My body image still sucks, but I don’t play the comparison game anymore.