My boyfriend (M 30) and I (F 32) went to get his car washed yesterday very early in the morning. Afterwards we planned to grab a quick breakfast before heading back to my place.
He asked me if it was okay if we went inside to grab breakfast rather than going through the drive through since rolling his window down would cause wet streaks to appear on his freshly washed car window and I said sure, that’s fine. So that’s what we did. We went home after that and hung out for a few hours.
We had some errands to run so we left to do that 2 hours later. He said he needed to get gas about halfway through our errands and when he parked to get gas I rolled down the passenger side window a few inches without thinking, since we are experiencing a heat wave where we live and I didn’t want to sit in a hot car while he pumped gas. I do remember noticing there was still some wetness that caused water spots when I rolled the window down and I hoped it would dry okay, but I was honestly careless as we were mid conversation and the thought went out of my mind after initially noticing it.
For the remainder of our errands my boyfriends demeanor suddenly changed. He was standoffish and snappy toward me. When we got home I asked him if everything was okay and he repeatedly said yes. After another half hour of him acting annoyed he finally admitted that he was annoyed that I caused his window to streak and didn’t at least acknowledge it or say sorry, as I know that he doesn’t like it when that happens. He said the issue was me not bothering to apologize rather than the fact that it happened, and that I should have known it would happen since it had only been a few hours since the car was washed so there was still likely to be residual water in the window.
I immediately felt terrible and apologized since I was very careless about it. I also went downstairs and cleaned his window with glass cleaner and it isn’t streaked anymore. I feel terrible for being careless however and I want to show him that I’m sorry, as it still feels like there’s some annoyance on his side. Should I apologize again? Or just let it go and hope it passes, and never make the mistake again?
Tl;Dr I was careless and caused water spots on boyfriends freshly washed car window, and failed to apologize. How to make it up to him?
So 4 hours later and his car isn’t dry?
Is he always ridiculous?
It was TWO HOURS LATER, and it was hot out. Anyone would reasonably consider the car “dry” by then.
Besides, he can get a paper towel and wipe the fucking streaks off.
You are dating a lunatic
Um…. So I’m married to a car guy (mechanic) who will only wash his car at certain times of the day/temperatures for streaking reasons and BOTH of us agreed you have nothing to be sorry for. Your partner does.
How the priorities works is that YOU are more important than the car. Hot cars are deadly at worst and very uncomfortable at best. Your partner should have foreseen this and either accepted the streaks or preemptively asked that you exit the vehicle so you don’t overheat while the car is stationary. His focus should have been on you and not the car. Leaving your partner to suffer in a hot car is MUCH more careless than window streaks.
You’re looking at this all wrong. Where is your partner’s concern for YOU? My hubby protects his car fiercely and loves it so much, but not more than he loves me