Great news on the restraining order, terrible news on your dating bullet points. Scrap those immediately and head over to r/dating_advice.
Good for you and good on your sister for pointing out how your ex much your ex was getting away with because she’s a girl. I think your dating joke is hilarious and would totally give it a shot, but my Partner would disapprove. Good luck. Now that you are no longer in the “fending off my ex” business, you should have more brain space for finding the partner you deserve.
Good job on getting the restraining order. It was the right thing to do.