I’m sorry but why is this post even on here? There was never a real relationship in the first place to need any advice on. You flirted with a guy for ~2 months and found out he doesn’t want a relationship. Seems extremely cut and dry to me. OP if you’re unable to figure things like this out for yourself you might not be ready for a relationship
> where does that leave me?
Regardless of his ex’s cheating and whether or not this is a shitty smoke screen, where that leaves you is always wondering. But talk about your values. Do YOU feel ok with an open relationship? Because that is a cat you cannot put back in the bag. It WILL come up again when he wants to get frisky with someone else. And what the heck is “try”? He is not all in. Time for you to get all out.
I think it’s crazy to be having sex with someone whom you barely know. Rather take it a little more slowly next time.
Just block his number. He’s not relationship material.
Let him go. The ex excuse is bs. Even if he can be monogamous for a little while eventually he’ll want to open up or cheat. Monogamy is default. He should’ve told you he leaned another way before you got invested so you could’ve made an informed decision.