It sounds like Lola was really invested in hiding her wigs, and maybe you were a little careless to show them, but it was an honest mistake.
These friends don’t seem like they are negatively judging her for wearing a wig! It sounds like they are saying “poor Lola” because they think she must be seriously ill if she “doesn’t have hair”
I don’t think she has to lie or out herself at all. She can just say to the friends “I’m not sick, my hair doesn’t grow quickly so I wear a wig”
Bad haircut? Shaved it? Shaved it because of bad haircut? Shaved it because of stress/trauma/breakdown? Bad dye job? Shaved because of bad dye job? Shaved because of damage from bad dye job?
Keeps it cut short because of easier maintenance? Likes the low maintenance of wigs over real hair? Likes the switch ability of wig life?
Because none of your business other than I’m healthy, thanks?
I hope you and Lola can patch things up!
Women wear wigs all the time. Have you met black women? You don’t have to have cancer to wear a wig, it’s a normal fashion thing.
I didn’t realize we needed reasons to wear everyday wigs. Seems like a weird question to ask someone.
All the other answers are so good! She can just say she prefers wigs to her natural hair bc her natural hair is brittle or thin or something and she spent so much on products trying to fix it that she just bought a wig. Or that she just prefers wigs or can’t grow her hair out. The growing out thing is also perfect bc that implies that once she grows it out, she’ll stop, so when she suddenly has different hair when she stops wearing the wig they won’t be like wtf.
Or, really, I think if she were to lie and say she has like female baldness or something, I don’t think that’s so horrible. OR she could say she shaved it to support a friend with cancer and ended up being really insecure about it? Idk. These are still all lies haha, I just wouldn’t blame you for wanting to lie. Lola’s peace of mind is so important and I definitely don’t think she needs to come out over this if she doesn’t 100% want to.
Also I second that you’re an amazing friend for being so supportive and honest with her!! Truly a treasure, I’m so glad y’all are friends 🙂