She definitely doesn’t have to out herself, I understand you’re both panicking but that’s kind of a wild conclusion to jump to. As others have pointed out, plenty of cis women wear wigs for the exact same reason Lola does. And frankly, Lola doesn’t have to tell anyone about why she wears the wigs. If anyone has the gall to ask “So do you have cancer?” then obviously she should put the record straight, but frankly Lola’s reasons for wearing wigs is none of anyone else’s business, so let them assume what they want. Your friends will forget about it soon enough.
You are a lovely friend. Dont know what to tell you about the wig thing, but I wanted to make sure you knew that.
I mean – without outing her as trans and not telling a lie like she has cancer or something, she could simply tell the truth; she’s tried to grow out her hair multiple times, but it’s too thin and it looks odd when it’s grown longer than a certain lenght.
Want to start with you sound like a lovely friend.
I get that you both panicked, but what’s wrong with keeping the answer simple and honest? She’s had trouble in the past growing long hair and prefers to use wigs? You might have already raised suspicions by acting frazzled and making it a bigger deal than it is, but that’s what I would go with.
Wigs are SUPER common. Trust me. And honestly I wish I had the funds for a few good ones. It’s no big deal, and your friend should really consider just saying, “I’m fine, I just like to play with different styles since my hair doesnt grow as easily as I’d like.”
Many women and men use wigs to do just that, and to experiment with colors. Heck, I had a friend in high school that had several wigs of different colors because her hair couldn’t handle changing as often as she would like.