Why would someone who loves you get so much joy out of winding you up? I understand teasing but this isn’t it. He is consistently trying to get a rise out of you but for what purpose? For his own enjoyment? To me, this implies a lack of respect. I’ve had a couple of boyfriends do this to me and I dropped them like a hot potato because it was strange and certainly not fun. I want to be able to relax with my partner, not get constantly wound up.
Sounds like a prick. I guess I don’t really have any advice but, no, it’s not you being weird about it.
i have a similar relationship, he will purposefully say things that are wrong and then vehemently dig his heels in when i correct him just to get a rise out of me, or say he likes/dislikes something because he knows i feel the opposite and the reason he does this is because he knows i will absolutely drag him in response and for some reason he really loves it. Maybe your boyfriend is looking for the same thing?
I went to the wedding of a couple who vehemently argue about the silliest of things. It was even included in their vows, specifically the burrito versus taco debate, which is one I have seen many a time and occasionally been a part of. Point is, if vehemently debating is something you usually enjoy, then I don’t see this as too much of a problem. But if there are days you aren’t into and you make that clear and he doesn’t respect that or gets overly upset at you then there is probably a compatability issue there. Perhaps a “debate safeword.” A phrase or what ever that makes it clear your frustrations are real and not part of the game.
Banter is one thing. Usually both people are laughing. Being constantly teased is not fun, even when the people doing it are close and care about you. Every once in a while is good, keeps you grounded, but if you’re finding yourself doubting everything he says because you know he’s just setting you up, that’s not a fun life. Sometimes you just wanna be real, and I hate it when someone is always “on”. And it makes you feel stupid. Your partner should lift you up, not always bring you down