TL;DR: the last paragraph. This is intense and I beg you not to judge me if what I write is a mess, I’m a mess.
We live in a share apartment: my gf (Laura) and I in one room (together for 3.5 years) and her best friend (Kate) in another room (she’s been living with us for about a year).
Kate has ended her long-term relationship with a guy before she moved in, and since then she’s had a couple of short relationships. She’s a nice person, but we don’t interact that much because of crazy working hours (there is no lockdown where we live).
My GF is straight and has never expressed her intention of trying it with a woman. I have had some threesome fantasies, but that was a long time ago, and I am 100% monogamous.
Today I had a lot of stuff to do at work. I phoned Laura telling her I’m gonna be late, and she asked me to buy groceries on my way home. However, I had a migraine and could barely drive, my eyes became sensitive to light and I rushed home instead.
I heard some moanings from our room when I entered the house, and I thought it was either my migraine symptoms acting up or Laura pleasuring herself. The thing is, she was quite loud and Kate’s coat and shoes were there, so she was home, so she could hear, kinda awkward.
I don’t know why, but I just entered the room, I was exhausted and she usually doesn’t mind it if I do that when she’s using the vibe.
What I see is Laura and Kate, fully clothed, in house clothes, scissoring and watching lesbian porn. They saw me, Kate stormed out, Laura tried to explain that it was just having fun and fooling around and they wanted to experiment, but that it means nothing and she is not bi and she loves me. I went to take a shower, went to bed, and she went to work (night shift). I have a lot of questions that I can’t answer. Is it cheating? Did she lie? Am I even a bit turned on by this? I really don’t know what to do tomorrow.
If you had caught her dry jumping and watching porn with a guy would you consider it cheating?
Yes it’s cheating.
Gender of the partner does not matter.
My suspicion is they’ve done this before.
Do what you will regarding breaking up.
If you don’t, You can’t say you weren’t warned when it happens again.
I expect Lauren will try to downplay this as experimenting and girls having fun.
Umm. No.
That’s gaslighting.
Straight gals don’t scissor other gals.
The fact Kate stormed out and didn’t try to justify anything likely means this isn’t the first time they’ve done it and your GF likely made some sort of indication that she would break up with you
Your girlfriend isn’t straight. You literally caught her fucking another woman. Of course it’s cheating
Also, I’m even wondering if this is a shit post because as a lesbian this sounds like something a man would come up with as scissoring isn’t as common as men think AND we rarely watch lesbian porn as lesbian porn is horrifically bad/inaccurate and meant for the consumption of men.
If this is real, talk to her tomorrow.
If it meant nothing to them why did they do it, why did your flat mate storm out and why is your soon to be ex girlfriend desperately trying to lie and cover her tracks.
So yes she cheated on you, yes she is bi and yes you should break up with her because these things do not happen on the spur of the moment. You may think it’s hot, but you are not invited.