Baby wants pasghetti. Tell him to go get pasghetti from his mommy.
You’re always going to find people on either side of the fence of forgiving affairs. However, to me, forgiveness is off the table when the affair contributes to abusive or unkind behavior.
OMG just saw your edit – good riddance, I’m really sorry, that sucks. It’s nothing about you and you deserve to enjoy your $$. I grew up poor and I really identify with wanting to pamper yourself and having the things that you couldn’t have before. You deserve it, you’ll find someone more your caliber one day.