…. while I was a work. As a nurse. During the pandemic. We are newly weds with our second anniversary coming up in July. My entire family lives 2000 miles away. We just bought our forever home, closed on April 23rd. I have two children from a previous marriage who absolutely adored him.
Turns out he’s become obsessed with my former friend. Calling her when I’m out, sneaking texts with her under a different name. She spent my whole shift in my home, getting fucked by my husband. I caught today’s texts before he deleted them and he dotes on her, uses the same pet names he has for me.
He says he doesn’t love her like he loves me and doesn’t want a divorce. But also misses her and doesn’t want to cut contact … LOL.
I am so torn apart. My kids witnessed the whole hysterical confrontation . I’m so physically ill and shocked and devastated I love this man so much. He is my soulmate and they even talked about me, our fights, and my “trust issues”
I’ve felt odd this month. Like I couldn’t pinpoint something different and felt very insecure. I told him I felt depressed and worried because he seemed withdrawn. We’ve had such open communication about these things, I truly thought we were special and different.
TLDR; I just found out that my whole beautiful, precious, wonderful future with the man I love is no longer and I’m wondering how someone could possibly heal from this god awful hurt.
Hes only sorry cause he got caught. You deserve a husband that will not cheat on you and your children deserve a father figure that doesn’t lie. He did it once he’ll do it again. Best wishes!! Stay strong!
And as for that friend… cut her off
This is nobody’s soul mate. He gives 0 fucks to you.
Don’t listen to what he says. He can say whatever, but observe the way he acts. Does it seems that he actually mean what he says?
Don’t expose your kids to this shit show.
You will get past this. You seem like a very strong woman. Your body could tell that something was not right and he was distant lately.
That beautiful, precious, wonderful future is out there darling. Go and get it. Good luck!
your soul mate doesn’t fuck your friend in your house while you’re risking your life somewhere. Now, with that out in the open, figure out if you can live with this man, but one day the curtain will fall off your eyes and you might regret investing more years in a cheater. especially since currently you don’t have mutual children. once you do, it’s 1000 more difficult and painful.
You deserve better. I can’t stand cheating spouses. I would rather cut out my own heart than cheat.
You seem very strong, and I hope you can find a way to work through this difficult point in your life. Please feel free to DM me if you need to vent.