My (35M )girlfriend (32F)went out tonite with her sisters and friends for a bday dinner and she came home absolutely drunk I have never seen so drunk before , long story short she went to bed and her friends kept calling her to make sure she was ok. Her phone was opened to a work email, and that where I noticed her and her coworker were sending eachother nudes and talking through email for the past two years . I open her work email, thousands of messages going back 2 years , pictures , videos , her coworker is also a 45 year old married man .I confronted her about it and she is crying hysterically saying that nothing physical has ever happened between them , but their are messages saying meet me in the back hallway or meet me in the garage. I don’t know what to believe , she’s saying she didn’t cheat and that she will quit , that it was just foreplay / email sex or whatever .she also lives with me so that kind of sucks , will probably be a process to kick her out .not sure if I want to continue the relationship after this .what is the best way to go about this?
Using the WORK email is completely unhinged.
I mean, man…,
What do you think those messages about meeting in discreet locations was? Two people in close proximity to each other for 40 hours a week don’t exchange nudes for 2 YEARS without fucking. Those messages about meeting were absolutely what you think they were.
Sorry to break it to you brother, but it seems pretty apparent that she had relations with her coworker. The evidence is right there. Hard but you gotta accept reality. The fact that she lied about it and didn’t own up to it is enough to break up* in my book, but you have to do what you think is best.
Edit: I wrote divorce, as I originally believed this couple was married. Updated to say “breakup”
She is lying about nothing happening. Send the messages to dudes wife and break up with your girl
To the streets with her, a 2 year emotional/intimate affair… you would never trust her again.
I’d be contacting his wife as well. and I bet their work would take a dim view of their activities. Tell her to leave immediately, as you need time to think and you can’t do that with her in the house.
>she’s saying she didn’t cheat and that she will quit
She already cheated for 2 years with sexting. And then>
>their are messages saying meet me in the back hallway or meet me in the garage.
This is her cheating physically because they didnt just meet to chat after all these pictires and talk.
>not sure if I want to continue the relationship after this .what is the best way to go about this?
Do not continue anything with her. She is an idiot for using the company email for all this shit as they can see everything if they bother to look and guess what you get to report her to HR to do so. Then contact the AP’s wife to let her know about her shit husband. Followed by you kicking her ass out and going thru the process to evict her if she is on the lease.
If she is on the lease a lawyer would be helpful and record all interactions with her so she cant throw shit your way.
1 – you have proof of cheating. The nude pics.
2 – do you REALLY think they haven’t fucked?
Take all the proof and send it to the wife. Throw your girlfriend out and block her from everything.