My husband and I were over at my moms house today where my little sister stays. We were in the kitchen talking about how my sister pierced her ears at home without any ice etc and pushed the needle right through her ear. My sister goes “idk the pain felt kinda good!” and chuckled leaving the room. After she leaves my husband goes “I bet she’d love rough sex…” and laughs. I’m frankly appalled at this point.
Fast forward a few hours and my sister starts name calling my husband over text in a playful way. They start name calling each other back and forth over text. She called him a “little dick bitch” he says “cocksucker”. I leave the room to go to the bathroom and when I come back in I heard her say at least if I had a wife I’d make her finish. He laughs and says you’ll have to ask my wife about that. And continues to engage in this weird sexualized conversation.
The whole thing really rubbed me the wrong way and I guess I’m looking for advice or opinions on if what I felt was valid or not.
The name calling seemed to turn sexual fast and it felt off to me.
ETA: I brought this issue up in the car because I told him I wanted to leave and I was clearly upset. He got very angry with me and ignored me the whole way back. I’ve had issues with him in the past looking up nude photos of my other sister who’s a model. But that is a whole other story.
Said issues happened during our first year of marriage. Married 3 years this far.
>I’ve had issues with him in the past looking up nude photos of my other sister who’s a model. But that is a whole other story.
Nah. Same story. You married a sleazy guy and you’re surprised he’s sleazy?
He fancies your little sister and would sleep with her given the chance. Do with that what you will.
Just wanted to say I can’t respond to all but I appreciate all of the comments and input. It’s scary leaving but even scarier knowing what will happen if I stay.
You sound like a mature woman. Not too sure what you expect anyone here to tell you.
You know what to do. And if you don’t I’ll tell you.
- Protect your 14 year old sister at all costs.
- Instruct her to stop texting him immediately. I cant even think of a logical reason why your little sister (14) has your husbands number. She can’t help in an emergency as she’s a minor.
- Call a lawyer or go through mediation.
He’s a creep. Also, talk to your mom about your sister’s behavior. She needs to know that’s not an appropriate conversation to have with an adult.
YoU’Ll hAvE tO aSk My WiFe.
??????!?!??!?!?! Give him a gps so he could find some SHAME. Ol’ obtuse headass.
Your husband is a groomer and you caught him, I think you need to gather evidence from his phone because if he’s doing it to her he’s absolutely doing it to others.
Then leave. Tell your parents, make sure she is blocked on his phone and her his, explain to her he’s a groomer and he’s gross and that he’s dangerous and it’s not flattering.
You cannot have a sustainable and long term relationship with a child groomer. He can and will do this to others, to your sister, probably to your own child.
I could not imagine that I could ever have this kind if sexual banter with a 14 year old and not feel awkward that it was out of line.
It is scary to me that he finds this appropriate.
In her mind she is holding her own with adults and being witty and mature.
He thinks he is just oozing sex appeal and that she definitely wants him.
It’s a disaster waiting to happen.