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Hey guys, i'm just wondering if there has been any sucsessful situations of working through and moving forward from their wife having a brief period of infidelity.
To keep this from being a wall of text, i'll try keep this as short and sweet as possible.
Last year in August, my wife (whom i have known for over 14 years) over the course of 2 months was hit by catastrophic and devastating, life altering situations, back to back. At least 7 different things at once. Even one of these things would rock the most sound of people.
Because of this she had a full mental collapse and is still only just seeing through the other side now.
I have just found out (which confirmed my suspicions) that around October, she ended up having a a fling with somebody else for about 2 months until she called it off as she started to come back to her senses a bit.
It was a full on thing. Not just once or twice, but for the period of those couple months.
She was not in a good way at all mentally especially during that time and is still to see the end of it now, but making good progress.
She came out recently and layed everything on the table as a way to, i guess help keep everything upfront and honest so we can continue moving forward.
This has ripped me apart pretty good as i was pretty confident this was happening but she denied it all the way up until now.
If it is possible for me to be able to work through this and maybe have a chance at a fair crack of continuing to improve the relationship, what should i be expecting or even if there was any sucsess stories that could be shared.
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We also have 3 children, 5, 3 and 1.5y
Cheers!
Ed ecco le risposte:
I’m a 10 year veteran of trying to do that. I was never able to get over it. We split and things became approximately 1 billion times better.
I forgave her the first time because she came clean with me rather than my finding out. She also had a myriad of mental issue and was actually trying to work on them. Then she stopped and fell straight back into old habits. Divorced her after that. I’m more than willing to stand by the vows I made in front of God, my mother, and everyone else, come hell or high water. I’m not willing to be the only one doing it, though.
Very sorry to hear this. You might find some help at r/survivinginfidelity
It’ll never not be at the back of your mind.
M ex wife of 7 years cheated on me, but that was a sign she had alreay given up on our marriage, so it only sped up our divorce. I was the other guy in college when we started dating, so I guess once a cheater always a cheater….
My Dad cheated on my mom when I was in highschool 25 years ago. It was devastating to my Mother, and drove her to attempt suicide. She spent months in a mental hospital for depression after that. They got through it. They’re happily married now for nearly 40 years.
As someone who has taken someone back before, don’t. It’s irreparable.
I would overcome it with a divorce. People are honest or not, if she had a two month affair that is a massive line in the sand that is crossed. I would never trust again, so i would say that is it. In five years if she goes for a drink with a friend, you will be thinking is it? I would not want that.